Gorima was a pampered only child of her parents
Her mom was a government employee in service while her father was a graded violin artist at a radio station
She was brought up by her grandparents in a secured enviornment
She was a tomboy doing fair in studies and clearing her grades every year...
She neither excelled in music nor showed exceptional performance in academics....
Gorima passed her Masters with average marks and took up a job in a pharma company
Her parents sought a suitable alliance for her....
Being completely not aware of her expectations and implications of companionship in the institution that marriage is, she said yes to the first probable decent proposal that she came across....
Rituparno and Gorima had a grand wedding after which they flew to the UK...
Rituparno had to upgrade his degree while Gorima took up a job to support them....
Unfortunately he couldn't keep up with the international standard and failed the course...
They returned back to India and had to stay with Rituparno's parents until they could find jobs here to sustain independently....
Never being had to adjust in a new home Gorima struggled in trivial matters...
Neither could she maintain good communication lines with her in laws not could she collaborate in the household in completing the chores....
Her in laws naturally expected her to cooperate in the house in cooking and helping around in cleaning and stuff...
Gorima however was already bugged with their unsuccessful stint abroad....
She neither enjoyed cooking nor liked helping around the house...
Rituparno had his own frustrations of not having made it and not having proved himself till then....
This lead to tension between him and Gorima
As they eventually secured jobs, they got to doing things routinely....
Found staff to work around the house and things worked smoothly for a while....
In the mean while Gorima conceived...
She couldn't keep up with her job along with her pregnancy hence opted to resign and went back to her parents to get rest...
This was then a long distance relationship between Rituparno and her....
Rituparno opted to stay aloof throughout the pregnancy struggling with his own professional struggles and the pressure to settle down better for the impending fatherhood
Gorima misunderstood this as his non caring attitude....
A bony baby boy was born to them however the misunderstandings did not subside....
They stayed far till the baby was six months old...
Due to his parents assurance he got Gorima and the baby back....
It was going well initially , Gorima wanted to get back to her job sooner....
At first the in laws agree0d to look after the baby...
She took up a job, but the in-laws couldn't manage the young infant...
They lacked the energy to keep up with the active child...
They told Gorima to look for a nanny which she wasn't ready to hire...
She took it personally and forced Rituparno to leave the house with her to stay in a rented flat near her parents place....
Tired and flustered with constant challenges in personal and professional front Rituparno reluctantly agreed....
It was a challenge for Gorima and him to seek a balance of earnings and expenditure in this new arrangement....
There was no interaction between the both of them....
Days months and years passed...
They absolutely lacked interaction
They were like two individuals striving to keep their act together under one roof for the sake of their child...
Tired frustrated and depressed they looked a lot more elder than their actual age...
Gorima on one hand piled up kgs while Rituparno shrunk and became underweight....
They kept the cold war non communicative zone at home....
Their weekends were split with the kid going to either of the grand parents house with the respective parent....
The other parent sat at home alone...
It so happened that Gorima was asked to join in for a get together with her college friends....
As she shared her story at the gathering with her closest confidants she got many views and opinions...
No one was judging her however by the experiences that she heard of her friends she introspected....
One of her friend's said that in a Relationship, nothing can be labelled as right or wrong. It's just a matter of perspective....
Many a times one needs to say SORRY even if its not his/her fault...
It is by default that one needs to at times bow down and accept and not expect...
Sometimes it's okay to let go...
While at times its imperative to Hold on and hold it tight...
Even if it means that one needs to bend over...literally....its fine...
One needs to be as non judgemental as one can and set aside EGO for good...
One needs to be caring , sharing and even more so gentle in words actions and appearance....
Ice on the head Sugar on the tongue approach can really mend things that could go wrong with a sharp pointed word off within partners...
Yes - separation, divorce, legal claims, single parenting are issues that are real and evident in today's society...
Just that at times they can be avoided with non judgement, acceptance and surrender to the humans that the spouses are....
More than being personalities with various traits and shortcomings....
She learnt her concepts well in the meet...
She was fortunate to have got friends with real experiences to share ..
She chose to learn...
She decided to change for good instead of expecting Rituparno to change for her...
And what a change it has been....
She is into wellness and wellbeing of a close knit family unit that she has....
Back to her in laws , she has moulded her ways collaborated with them to make it a brilliantly working model....
Saving up on the rent she now delegates work to the nanny who watches her son under the watchful eyes of her in laws...
Rituparno has calmed down and looks forward to being with this new woman that Gorima is...
He is in love...
And so is she...
Some tales happen to make us learn a lesson or two...
Like Ritu and Gori in this story...
#notsotinytales
- Prajakta Sathe.
Her mom was a government employee in service while her father was a graded violin artist at a radio station
She was brought up by her grandparents in a secured enviornment
She was a tomboy doing fair in studies and clearing her grades every year...
She neither excelled in music nor showed exceptional performance in academics....
Gorima passed her Masters with average marks and took up a job in a pharma company
Her parents sought a suitable alliance for her....
Being completely not aware of her expectations and implications of companionship in the institution that marriage is, she said yes to the first probable decent proposal that she came across....
Rituparno and Gorima had a grand wedding after which they flew to the UK...
Rituparno had to upgrade his degree while Gorima took up a job to support them....
Unfortunately he couldn't keep up with the international standard and failed the course...
They returned back to India and had to stay with Rituparno's parents until they could find jobs here to sustain independently....
Never being had to adjust in a new home Gorima struggled in trivial matters...
Neither could she maintain good communication lines with her in laws not could she collaborate in the household in completing the chores....
Her in laws naturally expected her to cooperate in the house in cooking and helping around in cleaning and stuff...
Gorima however was already bugged with their unsuccessful stint abroad....
She neither enjoyed cooking nor liked helping around the house...
Rituparno had his own frustrations of not having made it and not having proved himself till then....
This lead to tension between him and Gorima
As they eventually secured jobs, they got to doing things routinely....
Found staff to work around the house and things worked smoothly for a while....
In the mean while Gorima conceived...
She couldn't keep up with her job along with her pregnancy hence opted to resign and went back to her parents to get rest...
This was then a long distance relationship between Rituparno and her....
Rituparno opted to stay aloof throughout the pregnancy struggling with his own professional struggles and the pressure to settle down better for the impending fatherhood
Gorima misunderstood this as his non caring attitude....
A bony baby boy was born to them however the misunderstandings did not subside....
They stayed far till the baby was six months old...
Due to his parents assurance he got Gorima and the baby back....
It was going well initially , Gorima wanted to get back to her job sooner....
At first the in laws agree0d to look after the baby...
She took up a job, but the in-laws couldn't manage the young infant...
They lacked the energy to keep up with the active child...
They told Gorima to look for a nanny which she wasn't ready to hire...
She took it personally and forced Rituparno to leave the house with her to stay in a rented flat near her parents place....
Tired and flustered with constant challenges in personal and professional front Rituparno reluctantly agreed....
It was a challenge for Gorima and him to seek a balance of earnings and expenditure in this new arrangement....
There was no interaction between the both of them....
Days months and years passed...
They absolutely lacked interaction
They were like two individuals striving to keep their act together under one roof for the sake of their child...
Tired frustrated and depressed they looked a lot more elder than their actual age...
Gorima on one hand piled up kgs while Rituparno shrunk and became underweight....
They kept the cold war non communicative zone at home....
Their weekends were split with the kid going to either of the grand parents house with the respective parent....
The other parent sat at home alone...
It so happened that Gorima was asked to join in for a get together with her college friends....
As she shared her story at the gathering with her closest confidants she got many views and opinions...
No one was judging her however by the experiences that she heard of her friends she introspected....
One of her friend's said that in a Relationship, nothing can be labelled as right or wrong. It's just a matter of perspective....
Many a times one needs to say SORRY even if its not his/her fault...
It is by default that one needs to at times bow down and accept and not expect...
Sometimes it's okay to let go...
While at times its imperative to Hold on and hold it tight...
Even if it means that one needs to bend over...literally....its fine...
One needs to be as non judgemental as one can and set aside EGO for good...
One needs to be caring , sharing and even more so gentle in words actions and appearance....
Ice on the head Sugar on the tongue approach can really mend things that could go wrong with a sharp pointed word off within partners...
Yes - separation, divorce, legal claims, single parenting are issues that are real and evident in today's society...
Just that at times they can be avoided with non judgement, acceptance and surrender to the humans that the spouses are....
More than being personalities with various traits and shortcomings....
She learnt her concepts well in the meet...
She was fortunate to have got friends with real experiences to share ..
She chose to learn...
She decided to change for good instead of expecting Rituparno to change for her...
And what a change it has been....
She is into wellness and wellbeing of a close knit family unit that she has....
Back to her in laws , she has moulded her ways collaborated with them to make it a brilliantly working model....
Saving up on the rent she now delegates work to the nanny who watches her son under the watchful eyes of her in laws...
Rituparno has calmed down and looks forward to being with this new woman that Gorima is...
He is in love...
And so is she...
Some tales happen to make us learn a lesson or two...
Like Ritu and Gori in this story...
#notsotinytales
- Prajakta Sathe.
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