Shalvi's cousins took her to this overnight trek at Harishchandragad where Rachit had joined in...
He was the best friend of Shalvi's second cousin...
And so they met....
Both were interns then....
They liked each other instantaneously and many more treks followed...
Friendship blossomed into love and they got married as soon as thawere settled in their respective fields...
Shalvi was an commercial artist freelancing and self employed....
She worked for architects and interior designers in providing made to order paintings for decor...
It was the work that she loved and got paid well for what she did....
She was happy...
Rachit a hotel management professional working for a five star hotel in the city...
He kept getting transfered within the country after every few years for exposure improvement and appraisal benefits....
They were at Chennai for 2 years, Delhi for 3 years, Jaipur for a year and a half....
After almost 7 years of marriage they weren't able to conceive naturally...
After tests, every thing seemed to be alright with the both of them....
They had visited doctors before who told them to wait for a while for natural conception...
But their patience started fading off...
Then they tried vitro fertility treatment...
After 6 failed IVF's they finally gave up on the idea of doing it any more....
This was frustrating for both.
On one hand their profession was giving them tremendous success and material gains but on the other hand they failed to understand the tryst of destiny to keep them away from the pleasure of parenting....
Both of them somehow did not want to adopt a child....
As much as they were coaxed by friends relatives and well wishers to go in for Adoption, they strongly adhered to their opinion....
Biological child or no child was their say....
With this discord in professional and personal lives they started fighting a lot....
This was a challenging phase in their lives....
Their arguments rooted from simplest things in day to day life....
One day one of these fights got ugly abusive and violent....
At the end both of them paused...looked at each other and started crying....
Rachit and Shalvi for the first time ever let out their emotions through tears....
It was all the pressure the aspiration of parenting and the crushed dreams that ran down their cheeks in the form of tears....
They apologized to each other and decided to do something about it...
They took a break from living together....
By then it had been almost 9 and half years of marriage....
Shalvi went to her parents house and worked from there for a few months...
There she came across an organisation that taught Healing through Reiki and Kriya yoga...
She finally met her Guru, an enlightened master from an Authentic lineage who guided her to find her way through the confusion of why me? And why not?
She transformed...
From a frustrated desire laden women to a human with acceptance and a mission to find the purpose in her life....
She understood that there was a reason why she wasn't given the responsibility of mothering a child....
Her blueprint must contain different plans from her....
She also understood that if doors were to open, they would easily open long back with respect to having a child....
She accepted and decided that by no means she was going to do anything against nature for getting pregnant and maybe that's how life was going to be....
Here Rachit visited an old age home on a weekend as a company to his best friend who wanted to donate something to them for his own birthday....
He saw that even at their age they were trying to be happy....
Most of them had kids....
Not all were thrown our of their houses...
Many of them rather almost all of them were happy in the company of each other at their second innings home....
This gave Rachit a fresh perspective....
He opened up his mind towards adoption and thought through it, read up on all the formalities and procedures of legal adoption as well....
When Shalvi and Rachit finally met after their relationship sabbatical, both had turned a new leaf...
While Shalvi had accepted that there was more to life than just giving birth to a baby.....
Rachit was open to adopt a kid if Shalvi wanted...
They talked through it on their reunion honeymoon at Coorg....
The kids in orphanages that did not get adopted are the ones that suffer the most when it comes to taking further education, going well pass a degree, getting a job and settling down financially....
They decided to take care of kids from one such orphanage till they settled financially or provide for their higher education if need be....
Happy with their decision they came back to their new home in Goa where Rachit was posted....
Shalvi loved Goa and found a lot of inspiration to paint in the relaxed sea vibe....
Life denied them a biological child...
However it was up to them whether they wanted to deny themselves of happiness...
Thankfully they became aware and chose to keep happy by giving....
He was the best friend of Shalvi's second cousin...
And so they met....
Both were interns then....
They liked each other instantaneously and many more treks followed...
Friendship blossomed into love and they got married as soon as thawere settled in their respective fields...
Shalvi was an commercial artist freelancing and self employed....
She worked for architects and interior designers in providing made to order paintings for decor...
It was the work that she loved and got paid well for what she did....
She was happy...
Rachit a hotel management professional working for a five star hotel in the city...
He kept getting transfered within the country after every few years for exposure improvement and appraisal benefits....
They were at Chennai for 2 years, Delhi for 3 years, Jaipur for a year and a half....
After almost 7 years of marriage they weren't able to conceive naturally...
After tests, every thing seemed to be alright with the both of them....
They had visited doctors before who told them to wait for a while for natural conception...
But their patience started fading off...
Then they tried vitro fertility treatment...
After 6 failed IVF's they finally gave up on the idea of doing it any more....
This was frustrating for both.
On one hand their profession was giving them tremendous success and material gains but on the other hand they failed to understand the tryst of destiny to keep them away from the pleasure of parenting....
Both of them somehow did not want to adopt a child....
As much as they were coaxed by friends relatives and well wishers to go in for Adoption, they strongly adhered to their opinion....
Biological child or no child was their say....
With this discord in professional and personal lives they started fighting a lot....
This was a challenging phase in their lives....
Their arguments rooted from simplest things in day to day life....
One day one of these fights got ugly abusive and violent....
At the end both of them paused...looked at each other and started crying....
Rachit and Shalvi for the first time ever let out their emotions through tears....
It was all the pressure the aspiration of parenting and the crushed dreams that ran down their cheeks in the form of tears....
They apologized to each other and decided to do something about it...
They took a break from living together....
By then it had been almost 9 and half years of marriage....
Shalvi went to her parents house and worked from there for a few months...
There she came across an organisation that taught Healing through Reiki and Kriya yoga...
She finally met her Guru, an enlightened master from an Authentic lineage who guided her to find her way through the confusion of why me? And why not?
She transformed...
From a frustrated desire laden women to a human with acceptance and a mission to find the purpose in her life....
She understood that there was a reason why she wasn't given the responsibility of mothering a child....
Her blueprint must contain different plans from her....
She also understood that if doors were to open, they would easily open long back with respect to having a child....
She accepted and decided that by no means she was going to do anything against nature for getting pregnant and maybe that's how life was going to be....
Here Rachit visited an old age home on a weekend as a company to his best friend who wanted to donate something to them for his own birthday....
He saw that even at their age they were trying to be happy....
Most of them had kids....
Not all were thrown our of their houses...
Many of them rather almost all of them were happy in the company of each other at their second innings home....
This gave Rachit a fresh perspective....
He opened up his mind towards adoption and thought through it, read up on all the formalities and procedures of legal adoption as well....
When Shalvi and Rachit finally met after their relationship sabbatical, both had turned a new leaf...
While Shalvi had accepted that there was more to life than just giving birth to a baby.....
Rachit was open to adopt a kid if Shalvi wanted...
They talked through it on their reunion honeymoon at Coorg....
The kids in orphanages that did not get adopted are the ones that suffer the most when it comes to taking further education, going well pass a degree, getting a job and settling down financially....
They decided to take care of kids from one such orphanage till they settled financially or provide for their higher education if need be....
Happy with their decision they came back to their new home in Goa where Rachit was posted....
Shalvi loved Goa and found a lot of inspiration to paint in the relaxed sea vibe....
Life denied them a biological child...
However it was up to them whether they wanted to deny themselves of happiness...
Thankfully they became aware and chose to keep happy by giving....
- Prajakta Sathe
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