We have a natural tendency to complain
We almost counsel and comfort ourselves by complaining....
We complain about heat, traffic,
work pressure, inflation, pollution, population growth, budget, Government, water shortage, global warming, ecological balance, environmental issues, mental health conditions, stress, lack of physical activity, obesity, influence of television, addiction to internet, not having enough time, not respecting time, not getting sleep, not getting paid, not getting laid (more often), not getting to spend time, kids not listening to us, parents having diametrically different views, spouse being workaholic, maids not coming on time, driver taking too many leaves, drug abuse by stars, farmer suicides....
We judge others and then complain of them being rude, showy, bossy, aggressive, submissive, passive, negative, boastful, mean, touchy feely, sensitive, controlling etc etc....
Ahh... So many attributes in a day...
So many tabs open on the window of our mind...
However, if we take a step back...rather a few steps back and try and look at the broader picture , we'd find ourselves amongst the global group of complainers in some way or the other...
Some of us have chronic traits while others have milder ones...
We grow up learning to COMPLAIN as a part of our system...
We see our parents and adult counter parts do it as kids and we sub consciously adopt this strategy...
It could be a coping mechanism to many...
But till when....???
And for what????
And why????
Do we have to continue to COMPLAIN and judge????
We ourselves have soooo many labels to us....
We have been labelled as outspoken creative artistic intense secretive obnoxious moody at times...
A few of these labels are considered as glorified titles...
There are adjectives and then there are adjectives....
People around will continue to judge till slowly one by one there is an individual change....
Stopping judgement will result in finding no reasons to COMPLAIN and more reasons to feel happy about absolutely everything....
This is a chain reaction and a spontaneous one at that....
Once this starts and gives fabulous results it will spread....
Even if every one of us start by deciding to not complain for 15 mins per day to begin with....
(Yes...15 mins seems like so little but it might actually be a lot to consciously follow)
So for the first week if we decide to consciously stop complaining for 15 mins of our active time with people around... Say at lunch time with office folks or dinner time with family, a change can happen or begin...
We may be faced with people who are complaining around us...
We can chose to not respond or smile to their complains or just nod to acknowledge or listen or just say hmmm....
Guess this would make a beautiful change around us...
The minute someone starts to gossip around or if we feel like doing so...
An antennae should pop up...
It must gently rind us to toss our judgement goggles and stay clean...
Non judgement doesn't mean we don't stand up or raise voice against injustice if need be.
It just means that we consciously don't participate in gossip or complain based conversations...
This would be such a fabulous revolution to be a part of...
I m personally working on this aspect seriously on a one on one level...
This has so many positive outcomes...
When we stop complaining, we think manifold times before giving an excuse because then we are giving a chance for others to complain...
Shed the labels , toss the shades of judgement and rip off that cover of complain...
Let us strive to be clean...
Not just in eating drinking but also in thinking...
Not easy, won't happen overnight, but... We can genuinely give it a try....
Tasmay Shree Guruve Namah
- Prajakta Sathe
We almost counsel and comfort ourselves by complaining....
We complain about heat, traffic,
work pressure, inflation, pollution, population growth, budget, Government, water shortage, global warming, ecological balance, environmental issues, mental health conditions, stress, lack of physical activity, obesity, influence of television, addiction to internet, not having enough time, not respecting time, not getting sleep, not getting paid, not getting laid (more often), not getting to spend time, kids not listening to us, parents having diametrically different views, spouse being workaholic, maids not coming on time, driver taking too many leaves, drug abuse by stars, farmer suicides....
We judge others and then complain of them being rude, showy, bossy, aggressive, submissive, passive, negative, boastful, mean, touchy feely, sensitive, controlling etc etc....
Ahh... So many attributes in a day...
So many tabs open on the window of our mind...
However, if we take a step back...rather a few steps back and try and look at the broader picture , we'd find ourselves amongst the global group of complainers in some way or the other...
Some of us have chronic traits while others have milder ones...
We grow up learning to COMPLAIN as a part of our system...
We see our parents and adult counter parts do it as kids and we sub consciously adopt this strategy...
It could be a coping mechanism to many...
But till when....???
And for what????
And why????
Do we have to continue to COMPLAIN and judge????
We ourselves have soooo many labels to us....
We have been labelled as outspoken creative artistic intense secretive obnoxious moody at times...
A few of these labels are considered as glorified titles...
There are adjectives and then there are adjectives....
People around will continue to judge till slowly one by one there is an individual change....
Stopping judgement will result in finding no reasons to COMPLAIN and more reasons to feel happy about absolutely everything....
This is a chain reaction and a spontaneous one at that....
Once this starts and gives fabulous results it will spread....
Even if every one of us start by deciding to not complain for 15 mins per day to begin with....
(Yes...15 mins seems like so little but it might actually be a lot to consciously follow)
So for the first week if we decide to consciously stop complaining for 15 mins of our active time with people around... Say at lunch time with office folks or dinner time with family, a change can happen or begin...
We may be faced with people who are complaining around us...
We can chose to not respond or smile to their complains or just nod to acknowledge or listen or just say hmmm....
Guess this would make a beautiful change around us...
The minute someone starts to gossip around or if we feel like doing so...
An antennae should pop up...
It must gently rind us to toss our judgement goggles and stay clean...
Non judgement doesn't mean we don't stand up or raise voice against injustice if need be.
It just means that we consciously don't participate in gossip or complain based conversations...
This would be such a fabulous revolution to be a part of...
I m personally working on this aspect seriously on a one on one level...
This has so many positive outcomes...
When we stop complaining, we think manifold times before giving an excuse because then we are giving a chance for others to complain...
Shed the labels , toss the shades of judgement and rip off that cover of complain...
Let us strive to be clean...
Not just in eating drinking but also in thinking...
Not easy, won't happen overnight, but... We can genuinely give it a try....
Tasmay Shree Guruve Namah
- Prajakta Sathe
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