Its not an unusual story...
A REAL LIFE EXAMPLE that happened around me...
They are a nuclear family of three.
Husband in an MNC , wife self employed and a preschool Daughter.
Husband spends long hours at work (read more than 12) every single day and even logs in over the weekend.
He says he has a high pressure job.
He says that he needs to maintain their standard of living
In the hope of getting a better appraisal and an increment he finds himself on his officially online mark 24X7
He leaves home at 9 am and returns anytime after 10 pm
It could be a 13 , 14 , 15, 16... work hours in a day....
He says he doesn't find to even have his meals on time.
He eats his breakfast at lunch hour (stays hungry till then)
Skips lunch and has a direct late night dinner sitting on home couch in front of the Television and directly goes to bed without any movement post dinner.
Physical activity ZERO...
Spends weekends LYING ON THE BED with Laptop in front for most part of the day getting up just to eat and to catch up with sleep in the noon.
He spends some time reading out to his daughter or teaching her how to skip or play basketball (read 1 hour)
He has NO REAL FRIENDS, NO HOBBIES, NO SOCIAL LIFE.
He loves sports, news and movies.
He takes out his wife n daughter out for a meal or a movie once in a while.
He never looks in the eye when he talks with his wife.
He is surfing net , watching short films or shopping online for the most part of the weekend when he has logged in for work on one hand and appears occupied.
He aspires to have a fleeting career and can put in whatever is needed...
His wife has accepted this as a way of life, of him being unavailable...
She loves her work and taking care of their daughter and looking after the house...
She has many friends (for real) She socializes well.
She keeps busy updating herself in her work field
She keeps fit eats clean and makes sure her daughter does the same too
Just that the daughter misses her dad much
She has bouts of crying for reasons which are far deeper than anxiety
She yearns for her dad
No matter how well she tries, her mother can naturally not fill the gap of a father...
This was is personal struggle for both the mom and her daughter to try and fill their voids...
The daughter never sees her dad in the week since her dad always comes from office after she sleeps and she leaves for school before he wakes up...
There is NO COMMUNICATION, NO SHARING, NO INTERACTION, NO COMPANY ...
Kids need to see happy dynamics between their parents to grow up as healthy adults.
She can see none of that...
His late nights disrupt sleep cycles of his wife and daughter.
With a heavy heart but an assertive tone the wife took a decision to keep food ready in the kitchen and bed ready in the other bedroom for the Husband.
For the sake of better working health schedules of at least two family members, this was good decision.
This lead to a leeway to the husband to come as late as he wanted and then watch TV or surf till wee hours and sleep whenever he fancied...
He never felt there is a problem...
for him it is all good...
Intimacy ZERO... (bothers the couple)
What is work life balance???
He will grow well, earn well, get ahead and achieve everything...
All three of them will enjoy comforts and luxuries.... yes...
But at what cost???
time flies and their little girl will be all grown up...
In her teens with her friend circle and will have her own world
she ll study go abroad may be , date , live in or marry....
And He ll only remember her image.... SLEEPING...
No he is not a vilian
No she is not a hero
No their daughter isn't a victim
But they better fix it RIGHT NOW in some way...
God help the couple and their princess!
Realization, awareness, action...
Welcome to the real feel world...
Where is the Health?
Where is the awareness ?
Where is the sensitivity?
Where is the family?
Where is the marriage?
Where is the individual?
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